In this article, I’m going to explain
how negative friends affect your life, why you should cut them out, and how to
begin to do so.
Have you ever noticed this when you
were young, you always used to feel like the odd one out in the group, the more
serious one, the one who seemed to think slightly bigger than the rest. But
also the one who didn’t
want to always tell the others his goals and dreams in case of what they might think. Does this sound familiar to you?
want to always tell the others his goals and dreams in case of what they might think. Does this sound familiar to you?
If you’re reading this article today,
I’m very grateful. I’m grateful because it means I get a chance to inspire and
influence someone who could well possibly be in the same situation as the one
above.
A situation where you had a bunch of
negative friends that would just make fun of your dreams and laugh at me for
trying to do something different.
Before we continue with the
article, are you told you are the odd one out in the group? Do you feel like
the person who thinks bigger than the rest?
Maybe the rest of your friend group
chooses to waste their time and money on mediocre activities, like getting
drunk every weekend with nothing really to celebrate about, partying their
lives out.
If you are, and you feel like you
want to be doing more with your life, this article is for you.
What do you do when you’re the odd
one out in the group?
If you feel like you’re the odd one
out in the group, this is a good thing. It’s a good thing because it means
you’ve finally realized that you don’t belong in the group.
It might be tough to realize this;
maybe you’ve been friends with your group for a long time, and you think you’ll
be left with no one if you remove yourself from the group.
However, it’s a vital step to
becoming a more productive person, and a giant step closer to where you want to
be in life.
How do negative friends affect you?
Negative friends have a serious
effect on your confidence levels, the belief in yourself, and the amount
of action you take on your dreams. Not to mention your happiness.
If they’re constantly putting you
down and encouraging you to waste your precious time, they’ve got to go.
Reasons and benefits of removing negative people from your life.
Let’s go through the many
reasons and benefits of removing negative people from your life. Be warned,
after reading this you may have a lot less friends.
Worth it.
1.you become like the 5 people you spend the most time with
There’s an old saying that suggests
you become the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.
They’re not wrong.
If you spend the majority of your
time with negative people, you will start to feel negative. You will also start
to do the same activities that they do, which can’t be that great if you’re
interested in improving your life, and making the most of your time.
If, however, you spend your time with
successful and positive people, you will be positive. You’ll become inspired,
and you’ll learn a lot from these people. You’ll do productive and adventurous
activities, rather than the usual pint down the pub.
2. Negative friends are often un-supportive and
won’t have your back
Negative friends are un-supportive. They won’t
give you any words of encouragement. You need friends in your life that
will give you positive words of encouragement, and be there for you
in the tough times.
When you hand around with negative
people, their attitude towards things starts to rub off on you. When
they spend their time complaining and expressing their negativity towards life,
you start to feel the same way.
We are easily influenced by our surroundings.
Whether we hear good things or bad things from people, it has a large influence
on our thinking patterns and our general mood.
If you want to be able to think
positively, and not be sucked back into a negative mindset, then you need
to hang around with positive people, and not people who are going to make you
feel bad.
4. If you find yourself on the side of the
majority, it’s time to re-think
Have you noticed the trend between
those that side with majority, and those that choose their own path?
Until recently, everybody thought
that because the majority of people were going to university or college,that
meant that they had to as well.
Now however, debts are
increasing, people are graduating with the same degree and nothing to separate them
from the rest of the group. A lot of the top millionaires and billionaires
never even went to college.
The point of this statement is that
if you start to find yourself following what the majority of people want, maybe
it’s time to pause and reflect on the actual decision you’re making.
Many people make decisions just
because it’s what everybody else is doing, and not considering whether it’s
actually right for them.
5. Your confidence will be destroyed by negative
people
You’re not going to be getting any
boosts in confidence by spending time around negative people. In fact, they’re
going to destroy your confidence.
You’ll often hear things like:
·
You’re goals aren’t possible
·
You’ll never get your dream body
·
You have to be lucky to be rich
·
Your ideas are stupid
So on and so forth…
If you’re spending your time with
people who constantly lift you up, and believe in you, you’re confidence will
improve incredibly quickly. It’s a simple choice to make if you wish to be
advancing towards your goals at the best rate possible.
6. You’ll be a lot more productive without them in
your life
Distractions are the arch enemy of
productivity.
Since your friends influence how you
spend a good portion of your time, their interests will influence how
much you use your time to the best of your ability.
You could spend every week doing the
same thing, or you could be improving yourself as well as living life to the
fullest. Your friends have a big impact on which of the two you do.
7. You can’t learn anything from them
If your friends are the type of
people, who constantly complain, sit around doing nothing, and even have
nothing new to talk about every time you see them; can you seriously learn much
from them?
Actually, let me rephrase that;
Would you seriously want to learn
anything from them?
These are people who don’t think big.
They don’t want others to think big. They go for the short term happiness. the
lazy habits, the late nights out every weekend. Then Monday rolls around and
you hear them complaining about their jobs again.
The only thing you can learn from
this is what not to do.
You’re probably now motivated to
finally remove the negative people from your life. Maybe all the points here
have resonated with you, and you found yourself nodding along to some of the
stuff I’ve mentioned.
Although, it’s not exactly that easy,
right?
Your friends are a huge part of your
life, and it’s difficult to finally decide to stop hanging out with them.
Here’s a few points on how to remove
the negative people from your life:
1. Identify People Who Are Negative
The first step to removing all the
negativity from your life, is actually identifying those causing it in the
first place. There might be people affecting your mood and energy without you
even realizing it.
Take some time to think about the
people you spend time with:
·
Do they often help you out in times
of need?
·
Do they give you support and
constructive feedback when you need it?
·
Do they take advantage of you in
certain situations?
·
Do they often tell you the reasons
why something won’t work?
·
Do they build you up, or do they
break you down?
·
Do they always complain about the
simplest of things?
Once you think about the questions
above, you’ll be able to see which of the people in your life are negative, and
which are positive. In other words, which you should and shouldn’t avoid.
2. Limit Your Communication with Them
Do your best to limit communication
with them. If you’re often talking to them on social media, on a regular basis,
try muting the notifications from them.
There’s options on Facebook
Messenger where you can mute notifications from someone for a
certain period of time. The feature can be useful if there’s someone you want
to take a break from for a while.
Keep yourself busy with your own
tasks and goals to limit the amount of time you communicate with them.
3. Search for New Friend Circles
If you feel like your social circle
is nothing but the negativity circle, try searching for a new circle. Connect
with others who are more positive individuals.
There are plenty of places online
to find positive people to talk to, and there are plenty of places to
go out and meet people in real life as well.
If you already know some positive
people in your life, but don’t spend that much time with them, try to get
closer to them and do more with them.
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